It’s not your fault what happened, but it is your choice what you do with it and how you act.

 Yes, you were the victim.
But staying and acting from there is a choice.

What they did?
Not okay.
Totally valid that it hurt.
But no matter how wrong they were—it’s you who gets to decide what happens and how you act next.

Are you going to keep carrying it?
The comparison? The shame? The self-punishment?
The anger and how you then show up for yourself and life?

Or are you going to ask:
“As my most empowered self… do I need to carry this anymore?”

Yes I was a victim in many circumstances
Yes I have every fucking right to continue to complain and blame others
BUT It’s a lie to blame them if I choose to lash out at others or numb and punish myself with food because THAT is my responsibility what I do and how I act no matter what was done to me

Hurt people dont have to fucking keep hurting people!
I was hurt but I dont choose to hurt myself or others and you dont have to either no matter what was done to you

I show you how to release the story that healing means excusing the trauma and others behaviors and show how to reclaim the truth:
It’s not your fault what happened.
But it is your choice what you do with it and how you act.

You can keep carrying it…
Or you can finally be free.
Its always your choice and yours alone
 

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